Paternity Leave – Week 1

After RAD was born, I took a week and a half off work to help Kerstyn adjust to life with the baby. We had already had our share of emotional moments – the worst was when we needed to get her tongue tie snipped. She cried briefly. We cried harder. Nursing was difficult during the…

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Speedy Delivery

One of the most annoying thing about becoming a new parent – for me at least – is the lack of empirical data. Nearly everything is based on individual experience or opinion. This is especially true about the timing of your baby’s arrival. “First borns are always late.” “Labor for your first born is always…

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Moments of Actuality

My wife, Kerstyn’s pregnancy has, for me, mostly just been changes to her. The size of her belly, how often she needs to eat or sleep, different emotional triggers. The last eight months for me, however, have mostly just been in preparation. We bought and renovated house, we had the shower, I built a bunch…

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Parenting in Abstract: Variables

Having a baby but also not having a baby. That’s what my wife Kerstyn’s pregnancy has been like for me. Schrödinger’s baby. Taking nine months to pack for life’s weirdest vacation. There are endless lists of what you need, don’t need, might need, need to avoid. Every guide for preparation is entirely anecdotal and therefore basically…

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Parenting in Abstract: Naming a Person

I think a lot of people get excited to name babies. Like they do naming a puppy. When it arrives, it’ll be small and (hopefully) cute and as creator of this being, you get naming privileges. Similar to if you had just discovered some new kind of ant. Naming RAD was probably one of the most…

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